Communication with Discretion

Proverbs 24:3 “Through wisdom is an house builded; and by understanding it is established:”

For many years while rearing our daughters, I was consumed with the first part of this verse – through wisdom is a house builded. I wanted God’s wisdom to rear my girls so that they would turn out for good and for God. I listened intently to preaching and teaching on biblical childrearing principles. My wife and I read books on child rearing. We studied the scriptures ourselves for childrearing principles, and we discussed them together often.

God blessed, and as the girls grew they seemed also to grow stronger in their faith and in their love for God and their love and respect for us. They of course were not perfect and had their struggles, but we found a way to get through them together. We rejoiced in every victory, but we also tried to study and evaluate the reason for the victory. Always we understood that ultimately it was the grace, mercy and patience of God with all of us, but we also began to see a common thread running through each situation and its final outcome. It was the relationship that we had together and the ability to communicate with our girls through every situation. Yes, without a doubt my wife is greatly responsible for the success of our children. She always kept a line of communication open to our girls. Many a night was spent with JoBeth and 6 girls all on one bed talking late into the night. I came home many nights to find them all asleep on the bed at midnight or 1or 2 in the morning always wondering who was talking when the last one fell asleep.

You see what I came to realize was that the remainder of that verse is as important as the first. Wisdom builds, but that word “build” means really to lay the right foundation, to use the right materials, to have the right plans and to yield to the right builder. But through understanding is the house established or made to last, to stand. Understanding when it comes to relationships I like to define as communication with discretion. Right principles are essential, but the ability and willingness to communicate those principles to your children will make them last as a part of their whole life.

By Bob Hooker

On November 8, 1975, while sitting in his dorm room at Memphis State University, Robert Hooker realized he was miserable deep inside. He really didn’t have anything to live for. He had seen several of his friends die while in high school and college and knew that he too would face death someday. Robert’s heart was in turmoil as he picked up a small Bible and started to read. God’s Word was foreign to Robert and it was hard for him to understand; just as he was about to close the Bible he spotted some verses in the back of the Book. After reading these verses he understood that he was a sinner, and deserved to go to a place called Hell. Robert knelt beside his bed and asked Jesus Christ to save him and give him eternal life. Robert realized for the first time that Jesus Christ was truly the Son of God, and had lived a spotless life. He realized Jesus died on the cross, was buried, and rose from the grave, just so he could have eternal life. Robert graduated from Memphis State and went on to work at Trinity Baptist Church in Collierville, Tennessee as the Youth Pastor. While attending this church, God called Robert to preach and he, his wife and two daughters moved to Indiana to attend Hyles-Anderson College in January of 1982. Robert graduated from Hyles-Anderson College with a Bachelor of Science degree in Pastoral Theology in May of 1985. Later, Robert received his Masters in Pastoral Theology. Bro. Hooker has been working at Hyles-Anderson College and in the ministries of First Baptist Church since 1985. In 2005 Bro. Hooker was given a Doctorate of Divinity by Dr. Jack Schaap. Dr. Hooker is the Sr. Vice President and a Professor at Hyles-Anderson College. Dr. Hooker teaches the Faith and Family Sunday school class at the First Baptist Church of Hammond. 1985 - Demerit Counselor 1986 - Part-time staff member at the church and director of the Sailor Ministry 1990 - Athletic Director and part-time faculty 1996 - Full-time faculty 2001 - Dean of Married Students 2003 - Dean of Student Counseling 2006 - Sr. Vice President

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